R U OK? – It’s OK To Say NO

Today is once again, R U OK day in Australia. This initiative started as a movement to raise awareness and open channels to help people struggling with life. According to the RUOK website www.RUOKDAY.com:

The R U OK? Foundation is a not-for-profit organisation dedicated to encouraging all people to regularly and meaningfully ask ‘are you ok?’ to support those struggling with life.

R U OK?Day is our national day of action on the second Thursday of September (12 September 2013), and dedicated to reminding people to regularly check in with family and friends. We also have Resources for You to use throughout the year to help you ask ‘are you ok?’ regularly of family, friends and colleagues.    Stephen Fry

You might remember that last year I wrote a blog post about it, and at the time, I was NOT OK. You can read all about the reasons here: R U OK 2012.

Since then I have had many struggles, up and down, and I am still working through them, but for today, I can say, “I am OK”. Who knows what tomorrow brings. My anxiety peaks and waves, comes and goes. Some days I feel like I can conquer the world, and some days I feel like I want to hide out in my room all day and not talk to anyone.

The reason I’m bringing this up is because I want to ask YOU the question: ARE YOU OK? R U OK? ARE YOU ALRIGHT? Nothing is ever black, and white. I know nothing can ever be solved with a cup of tea, but it sure can ease a burden! Let me be your tea-maker. I am HERE for you. I will listen, I will not judge, and I will not set out to solve the worlds problems. Sometimes all you want is a friend to listen and acknowledge, not judge, not try to solve the issues, or tell you where you might be going wrong. I am your friend.

Not AloneIf you don’t want to talk to me, just know that You are NOT alone. With the progress in social media and the access we all have to the internet, I have found that you are open to a world of opportunity and hope. If you have anxiety about being in public situations, you can be comfortable in your own home and reach out. If you don’t like the way you look and it makes you depressed, you can be behind a computer screen asking for advice. You don’t have to put yourself in situations that may cause you to be even more “not OK”.

So, today, at this point in time, why am I feeling OK? I think it has something to do with finally seeing a psychologist. It took me a couple of goes, and it’s not always first one is the best choice, but the one I have been seeing was not trying to read my head, or solve the worlds problems of why I am the way I am. We were simply letting it be and working with how we can work with that. It’s hard work, and it’s not all roses and sunshine, but the one thing I have learned is, FriendsEveryone needs someone to talk to. By talking about my issues with someone who was non-judgmental, my whole attitude changed. I’m no longer holding onto feelings inside myself, and no longer taking it out on my loved ones. Again, not always having great days, and yes I regress, but I know that I’m getting better. You can too. All you need to do is ask the question.

I hope you are aware that you are not alone. You will be OK. There is help available. If you go to one doctor and they say they don’t believe in ‘depression/anxiety’ then go to a different doctor. Start doing Yoga (I know it sounds naff, but it did help me!). Start exercising, even just a 15 minute walk outside in the fresh air will clear your mind and help.  If you want to send me a private message, then please do. My email is: sydneygen04@yahoo.com .

I’ve listed some resources that you can go and check out and maybe gain a little further information and maybe some help?

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RESOURCES:

Beyond Blue

R U OK Day

Dancing with the Black Dog – A blog

and just remember:

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It’s the End… but it’s only just begun

Hi Everyone! GUESSSSSSSSSSSS WHAT?????????????

I DID IT!! I survived to tell the tale of my 12 week body transformation journey!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can you believe it’s been three months already?? I can’t!! There have been bumps in the road, there have been teeny tiny set-backs, but in the end…there was joy!

It’s been a crazy ride and I’m not ready to get off yet! I still have a goal to achieve and am starting again tomorrow, from scratch! We’re putting the results of these 12 weeks aside, and we are going for gold again!

Soooo… here’s the summary:

If you’d have given me ANY of those numbers at the beginning of the program I would probably have scoffed at you!! I sit and stare at my before and after photos, still in disbelief!!! I am well on my way to being the person I want to be, and this program has been it for me.

I am going to blog more very very soon about feelings, but for now I just wanted to give you the final results!!! Thanks for coming along with me and for reading and commenting and blogging and texting and inspiring ME to be the best version of me!

Weigh-In Week 6 and Emotions-a loaded 8 letter word

Emotions—how one 8 letter word can mean so many things, or have such a huge impact on me is amazing. I feel that this week I’ve been emotionally fragile and on that ever riding non-stop rollercoaster of life, where the highs and lows never seem to fade.

I often go through and re-read my posts in the blog, to see how I’m going and where I’ve come from. I’m glad I do that, and I’m glad I have this to make it possible. I’ve found that some of the things I’ve written, I’ve actually forgotten I was feeling or experiencing.  I also noticed that at the beginning of the program and blog I was relying heavily on expressing emotions. You can see that from the little icons I would put at the bottom of the post.

Although I might say “I’m alright,” quite often it doesn’t mean internally I am. That was until this week. ((TMI warning)) It’s TTOTM (If you have to ask, you must be male!!?!?) and I’ve been feeling extremely flat and blah (refer to last post). I often get extremely lethargic and am in a lot of pain and do not feel enthusiastic about life at all. It’s one of those weeks of curling into a ball and sleeping and escaping. I’m happy to report that’s the old me! I did pout a little, feel a little sorry for myself and do a little scale hopping this week *slaps self on hand-we talked about this!* and I saw that the scales were moving in the up, up, up direction. Instead of pouting and getting shitty about it, I put on my tunnel vision and knew that lazing around, feeling sorry for my self would do nothing but make those numbers stay there, so I got off my arse and exercised. I kept it pretty light this week, but I still moved. I paid particular attention to the food I ate. I’m human; I’m normal. I had those terrible TTOTM cravings and wanted sugary, sweet, fatty useless food. My weekly confession: I tried 1/12th (yes, a tiny smidgen) of a piece of choc iced sprinkle donut that was bought over by a friend (who didn’t know any better). That one tiny bite was DISGUSTING! I couldn’t believe that I didn’t enjoy it at all. It was gross and the flavours sat on my tongue in a most unpleasant way. BOOM—at least we can tick that crappy food off my want list now! Last night I grabbed a handful of ‘hot chips’ that were in front of me (5 in total) and ate them, thinking they’d be yummy and delicious. Anyone who was around last night, when I did this, knows what happened. They were soooo gross. Even grosser than the donut! I felt oil in my mouth and I felt like I’d swallowed a cup full of oil and it sat in my stomach. I actually got nauseous and wanted to go and throw up. Lesson learned. My body is telling me I don’t need it and my mind has finally clicked.

You may “think” you want it, and the emotions that we all experience will convince as that we “want” it, but our body doesn’t “need” it and soon, you won’t even like it. How exciting, right? I think so!

Basically, what I’ve been rambling on about is the fact that Michelle says to “take the emotion out of it” — become disciplined and conscious of what you’re eating. Nowhere in the program does it say you can’t enjoy food. I enjoy food, quite a lot. I never thought I’d say I was looking forward to Lentil Spaghetti Bolognaise, but it’s one of my favourite menu items. Plan, be organised and you won’t be placed in a situation where you might make bad choices.

 The other most important thing I’ve learned from this week is to Never Give Up. It’s true to say that when things  seem ‘too hard,’ you just want to throw in the towel and give up, say screw it, why bother? It’s quite possible to  convince yourself that if the scales don’t move, then it’s not worth it and you’ve just worked out for  nothing…..Well there’s a reason to bother and it isn’t just that fact that you’ll feel such a difference in your life.  Your body, your attitude, everything will change—for the better. I’m not perfect and I’m not emotionless, but I know a journey worth going on is a journey full of experience and wonders and discovery.

Who wants to know about weigh-in?!?!?

YAY!!!!! Hard work and consistency DOES pay off. I am so excited about the results. I had set myself up to not be emotional if there was no loss, or a gain, because I knew that I was having my ‘off’ week. The results have just made me even more determined. I am 1.2kgs off of a 10kg loss. I’m writing this down to be accountable–I want that 1.2kgs gone next weigh-in!  I am also ‘officially’ down 1 pant size. I can fit into pants I haven’t worn in years and the current jeans I have keep falling down. Wooooo!! *throws sparkles in the air–the sprinkley kind, not my new phone!*

Thanks for all the support — I seriously love it and it helps to keep me in check and encourage me. I know that only I can do this and only I can decide what I eat and how I exercise, but I love knowing that there are people out there who might read this and think that if I can do it, they can do it, because quite frankly, it’s true — YOU CAN!!!!!!

And if you have one of those days where things seem like crap and you don’t think you can go on–do this:

Wednesday Weigh-In Week 4

It’s Wednesday Weigh-In again! This time, for week FOUR!

We’ve been doing this program for a month already, I can’t believe it! The time seems to fly! Honestly, I have not been looking forward to this weigh in at all. Last week was a really miserable week. The whole household suffered from gastro and the meal plan included a lot of Tuna and meals I wasn’t too enthusiastic about. This caused me to become unorganised and in the end, totally fail my week! I felt jumbled and inevitably, I didn’t do as much ‘working out’ as I should have been doing. There seemed to be many things getting in the way and I didn’t get to get out and jog, which depressed me! These are not excuses, as I still managed to do some at-home workouts. It’s quite possible I set my expectations too high sometimes, who knows.

One thing that my husband and I have discussed a lot is that we’re in this for the long run. It’s a lifestyle choice for us, and that means we’ve changed our eating habits, and what we keep around the house. I’m also enjoying the empowerment of having the supportive friends and family that are around me. It’s amazing what happens when you surround yourself with positivity. Even at your low-light, someone is there to pick you up and shine the torch brighter.

I have learned a valuable lesson of being organised! I know this is a part of the program, but I’ve definitely experienced it for myself now!  So, this week we were organised, we’ve shopped, we’ve stocked and we’ve got our meal plans and menus ready to go!

This week, marking our fourth week, it’s also a revisit to the Fitness Test.

I’m pleased to say I have improved on a few things (I’m yet to do my running test). I managed to wall sit for a lot longer than 11 seconds, although I was 5 seconds off moving to the next level, and out of beginners! I will conquer that next time!!! I also managed to move up to Intermediate in my push-ups, although those too, can be improved a lot more. I’ve never had a lot of upper body strength!

The weigh in results are:

Whilst less than 1kg is not ideal, I’d like to take the time and celebrate the fact that I no longer have 700 grams holding me back. I have rid it for good. I am celebrating every gram gone and I just happen to have 700 reasons to celebrate. In saying that, I also know that now is the time to pick up my game and to move it.  So, with that I sign off and leave you images of me dancing around my living room to the sound of the Madagascar Lima’s “I like to move it move it, I like to move it move it, We like to—-Move it!!”

 

We’ve Only Just Begun…

Hi There! If you’re reading this – then welcome to my blog! If you’re not – then, never mind!

I’m starting this blog to keep myself on track and accountable. I’m about to make a big step and commit to something. I’ve never been great at follow through. I tend to go into things head first and be very enthusiastic and then it dies away and I end up leaving a trail of many half-open projects and endeavours. This is something I won’t be able to do that with. This involves me, being the best I can be and doing the best I can do. This is for me and for nobody else. I’ve decided to start the Michelle Bridges 12 week body transformation, or as people in the know call it 12WBT.

I have tried everything and anything under the sun, as you can imagine. The most weight I’ve ever lost was 5kgs on Lite N Easy and also having some guidance from my sister, who is involved in the world of active lifestyle, and has competed in Body Shaping competitions.  But now, I want to lose a minimum of 10kgs. At least! I want to lose the hips, the bum, thighs, all of it! I want it smaller. In fact, I think it’s a great day to start because when I went to put my only pair of jeans that I own on today, they started to rip! I refuse to go and buy another pair, until I can buy a smaller size!

Maybe I should start with a little about me and why I want to do this?

I’m 32 and a married mum to 3 children under 4. I am currently a stay at home mum but have recently applied for full-time work. As a mum to young children I always feel like I’m on the go and ‘busy’; at the same time I feel like I get nothing achieved! It’s a tough battle of balance and I definitely haven’t mastered it, not sure if I ever will! I can’t join a gym, because the packing all the kids up and trekking off to a gym seems like too much hassle. I also have a husband who does a lot of overnight or lengthy travel. That means I join a gym, I pay the money and then I can’t go. I could walk around my lovely neighbourhood, however when you take 3 kids for a walk, it’s more of a leisurely stroll, not a power walk. I also have the issues of the travelling husband.

These all sound like excuses and I believe they might possibly be. In fact, these excuses are no longer valid. As of today I am putting a stop to all excuses and I’m making myself ‘do’. I can do this, I can achieve this, and I can see this through. I want to make myself a better person and I hope through this challenge I can.  I want to be more self-confident. I want to be happy with myself. I want to look in the mirror and not absolutely hate what I see. I want to buy clothes that look good on me. I don’t want to be frumpy anymore.

I have been watching a lot of the videos and reading the success stories from people who have already completed or are currently completing this challenge. They are inspiring and amazing and I aspire to be one of those stories that people can look back on and say “Wow, if she did it, I can do it.”

If you’re reading this, I need your help in a little way! I need you to hold me accountable! I find that if I am accountable to myself first, and then have others for support and back up I can achieve this. Together, we can help discover myself one gram loss at a time!

I’m just about to go and sign up and pay the money! Look out for updates soon as I start on this journey, join me in the ups and downs. I can’t wait to hear your stories too!

Emotions: Excited, Nervous, A little Scared, Determined.