Coming soon. What the heck has been happening in my brain!? So much! So much!
In my youth I decided that university wasn’t for me. I wanted to see the world. To live in another country. To Fly Like An Eagle. That’s exactly what I did. After an extended time overseas, I finally came back to Australia for good, in 2004. I met a guy, married, worked, had three kids…. For that reason, my university journey is taking shape in my late thirties, instead of my teens.
Tomorrow, the kids go back to school for term 3. A welcomed return for me (not so much for them, because helloooo…homework – YUK!)
It’s also a week until I return to university. After having studied online for a few years (and getting nowhere thanks to not getting cross-credits) I have found that on-campus is definitely the best way for me to study successfully. The only problem is I have mild social anxiety. I do not like crowds, and I do not like being around a lot of strangers. Whenever I think about having to go in to the campus I am a combination of excitement to be learning new things, and sick to my stomach because..people.
I’m trying not to acknowledge my anxiety and nerves, but they are creeping up, sitting on my chest and pressing down so much that I can physically feel it change the way I breathe.
I don’t have any ‘university friends’ as last semester I was doing a couple of mandatory subjects that were aimed at a cross section of courses, thus not strictly in my ‘field of study’. Also, I’m not good at making friends. I love being friends. I love having people in my community, but I’m so awkward when it comes to making them. I have a knack of being really quiet and observant, until I know you. Once I do know you though, look out! You’ll never get me to shut up! It’s hard, but I’m going to try to reach out this semester.
Anywho, I’ve managed my anxiety with diet and exercise for awhile now, however my exercise has slipped. My diet isn’t terrible, and I try to stick to Gluten Free, Wheat Free as much as I possibly allow myself. I certainly don’t beat myself up when I do eat a spoonful of Nutella, but I am aware it will affect me. In the past I have seen marked improvements through exercise. Something I have learned is that I really need to do a ‘type’ of movement every day. If I don’t do it every day, my body becomes a blob. Yesterday I had great intentions of going out for a run (jog/walk/shuffle – let’s face it, what I do isn’t graceful, but it is out there!) I had on all the gear and then bam… throughout the day, my mind talked me out of going. I didn’t do it. Complete regret. Why didn’t I just lace up the shoes and go? I KNOW I’ll feel better. It’s like I self-sabotage myself by not doing it. Self-talk is huge. How you talk to yourself reflects on how you put your own energy into the world. I also believe that you can change the way you think by being conscious of the how you speak to yourself. Being present, and listening. I’ll listen to Benedict…because he knows…
Anywho, this week I am committing to three thirty minute runs (and anything above that is a bonus!). I am also starting back at dance class this week, which I thoroughly enjoy. So, whilst the anxiety is creeping up, and I’m feeling panicky, and scared to return to school, I am also going to commit to getting out and exercising, as well as being kind to myself. Because really, in the end, being kind to yourself really does matter. Regardless of my ‘friend count’ I know that I am important, and I matter.
***Shout Out to a wonderful online community. I’ve written about them before. They are known as Operation Move. A true Sisterhood. If you are into being around positive women, who uplift, encourage, and inspire, then they are your community! Come over and check them out on Facebook! I’m fairly certain that without them I wouldn’t believe in myself half as much, and I certainly wouldn’t have the confidence to move as much.***
If you’re anything like me you have a love-hate relationship with school holidays.
Whilst I love not having to make school lunches and ship off the kids every morning by the time the second bell rings, I do so miss the routine and the few hours of time that I usually do things without the kids (or at least with just the littlest).
It’s also a battle of the screens. You want to give the kids a well deserved break from school, and let them have at it with technology, but you don’t want to lose them to the monster of the screen. You know, the children that turn into unrecognisable monsters when you say “time’s up” or “break time”…don’t tell me that’s only my children!
Today we went and saw The Minion Movie. Cute. Funny. Completely kidcentric!!! When we came home I knew the kids would all want to jump onto their iPads, or tablets, or PSwhatevers, but I had a trick up my sleeve. Last week on a Facebook post I saw a recipe for two ingredient moon dough. Curious, I clicked and read how easy it seemed. I’m linking to this post because I can’t remember the FB one I clicked! All you do is add in some hair conditioner to cornflour and ‘presto’ ..moon dough. I didn’t quite believe it could be that simple. Until I did it!
1 cup Cornflour
1/3 cup Hair Conditioner
It gave the kids some time away from the screens (I think the first sitting was 45 minutes), and once I packed it into a ziplock bag, they came back to it later and played again. They used knives to slice it. Cutters to shape it. Hands to mould it! It was a great activity that didn’t cost anything (because we had the ingredients in the house!) AND there were no complaining about not being on technology!
So, next time you’re looking for a simple time out from screens activity, give it a try! Sometimes it truly is the simple things in life that are the most fun!
Recently I took part in an 80 day fitness challenge.
The idea was the exercise/move every day for 80 days in a row. Before you think that the idea is insane and rest days are important, one of the options was stretching, which worked well for ‘rest days’. It was also a fundraiser for a wonderful woman raising money for Cancer research.
I went into the challenge full of enthusiasm and had planned out a countdown of days. It looked intimidating, but totally achievable. I enjoyed moving every day, and at the beginning of the week I would set out my days and what movements I would be doing. I used YouTube a lot and am so addicted to “The Fitness Blender” and all their workouts. I got stuck into the kettlebells and the DOMS were feeling good. By about day 25 I started to feel stronger, and better. The online support group was great, and it was good to go in and celebrate movements.
There was an element of nutrition that came into it, such as introducing more fruit and veg, which I eat anyway, and trying to cut back on alchohol..bonboooong.. THIS one
may have definitely was my demise with seeing complete improvement.
We planned a trip away for the weekend for my eldest, who turned 8. That’s when it all headed south (literally). I believe it was around day 52. We spent the weekend away and I didn’t make it a priority. That‘s basically what it comes down to. Poor planning meant that I neglected to do any movement, thus disqualifying me from the challenge.
Now..there are two ways this could go. I miss a couple of days, pick myself back up and keep going with moving every day (because I genuinely enjoyed the feeling!) Or…. drop it and forget all about it. Going back to old habits and neglecting what made me feel good. You can guess which one happened. I fell apart. All the planning, all the moving. It stopped. Do I regret it? I don’t regret it, because I feel it’s a genuine lesson. I think the lesson I needed is to keep small goals in mind. Not grand ones. Think small, achieve big. I was able to go for 52 moving EVERY day. That is HuGE. To me, that is an achievement I should celebrate. So.. I am celebrating the fact that I was able to meet part of a challenge, and whilst I didn’t complete it to get a ‘medal’ at the end, I know that I’ve learned an extremely important lesson to me.
Starting today, I am going to plan one week ahead. No further. I will write out my workout/moving plans and stick to them. I will celebrate small victories and although the bigger picture will always be hanging on the wall, I will choose to look at the snapshots that will create good habits, and allow me to continue on a journey of life, love, health, and everything in between.
Do you have any favourite YouTube workouts? Do you have a secret to motivation? Is it motivation, or is it planning?
The Charity Virtual run I wrote about a couple of months ago is happening!
Right now I’m finalising the details of the website and Facebook page, as well as minor details with the charity of choice. Once I’ve done that I will be posting all of the details of entry and participation.
I’m also looking at medals and best ways of getting them for good quality at the lowest price (after all, I want the money to go to the charity, not into the bling!)
I am hoping for a wonderful and successful first round so we can make it a regular event! These virtual runs have been so super fun for my family. My 7yo son and I have just entered into a Star Wars themed one!!!! So Cool!
Keep a look out for the details soon.
On another note… I’m now going ON-campus to uni so life is going to be everything in between for quite some time! Wish me luck!
After a week of voting – the winner has been decided. It was a close call and I thank everyone who voted and took the time out to share the poll. Moving forward I hope you join us on this journey and create a brilliant platform for fundraising, and getting out there and moving more!
Congratulations to Give and Take
Please keep an eye out on this page for upcoming news regarding the run and how you can participate from anywhere in the world! The first event is estimated to be February 2015.
VOTING HAS NOW CLOSED – THANK YOU FOR PARTICIPATING.
Thank you to everyone who nominated and voted for their favourite charity! The poll was open for a week and in that time we had over 400 votes! An amazing effort! The top 3 have been decided and now it’s time to vote for the finalist! Poll will be open for one week. Once the finalist has been chosen I will contact them regarding fundraising on their behalf. Once we’ve got all our shoes in a row, I’ll be posting about the event. Happy Voting! (Read the original post regarding ‘what a virtual run is’ here).
Click on the names to read more about each charity.
James & Kristy Thomas are the founders of Feel The Magic Foundation. It’s their mission is to brighten the lives of kids who have lost someone they love.
They both know first hand how hard it is to deal with the loss of a loved one, which is why they are both so passionate about their cause.
Dealing with grief is always a difficult and challenging time for anybody, however through the eyes of a child it can be a devastating experience. Feel The Magic has been created to lift the spirits of children who have lost their parent/parents or even a sibling due to illness or unfortunate circumstances completely out of their control.
Feel The Magic is a non-for profit organisation, which raises money to send bereaved children & their immediate family to the happiest place on earth Disneyland. We know that this is not going to bring back their lost loved one however It’s here where families can create magical experiences that they will remember forever. It’s also an opportunity for them to reunite as one and honor the memory of the deceased. Feel the Magic also offers ongoing grief education and support to help kids and their families move forward in life without their lost loved one in a positive way.
It is Feel the Magic’s vision that the whole family will unite in a magical way in a magical place like ‘Disneyland’.
Based in Sydney Australia, we are a local community group with volunteers from the Hills District (Castle Hill to Quakers Hill area) wanting to make assistance available where there seems to be a gap in the current system offerring help to families.
Some families do not meet the criteria at the local welfare and community centres for help and we want to try to help those that fall through the cracks of the current welfare, charity and community system.
We are 100% non profit community group that relys 100% on volunteers and the community gifting our families we are helping.
When we have supplies available to us, we help families needing food, care packages, baby goods, clothes, toilletries, toys, books, furniture, white goods, electricals, appliances, homewares, shoes, tradesmen and assist with medical requirements.
We can also assist in finding meals for families in need and referring them to agencies or centres that can assist them with support or referrals to other resources.
Give and Take not only help with “needs” items but also with “wants” items. We pride ourselves on being unique and modern with assisting families with everyday items that keep up with society. (For eg. to prevent bullying)
We have many volunteers that can help with deliveries and transport and have access to alot of suppliers for items of basic needs necessary for everyday life.
NOFASD Australia is an independent not-for-profit charitable organisation. We are the national peak organisation representing the interests of individuals and families living with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders (FASD).
Our Vision is the prevention of alcohol exposed pregnancies in Australia and an improved quality of life for those living with FASD.
NOFASD Australia has a strong commitment to FASD prevention at a primary, secondary and early intervention level.
NOFASD Australia is working towards ensuring FASD is recognised as a disability in Australia, promoting social inclusion by advancing the rights and interests of people living with FASD, and providing the necessary supports to individuals and families at a grassroots level. This advocacy work is fundamentally important in preventing the social, health, economic and justice consequences of this condition for all Australians.
In addition to delivering support to families living with FASD, NOFASD Australia also provides education and training workshops to parent and carer groups, government and non-government service providers and school communities throughout Australia.